One of my followers @tellumyumad asked me today in a tweet â€œ@AskRodP what are your thoughts on going through your woman’s purse?â€ Well, let me set the ladies who follow me on Twitter straight. You canâ€™t spell â€œpursuerâ€ without â€œur purseâ€ can you? So if you want a man to pursue you then you have to realize heâ€™s going to have to go straight into your purse.
When a man is snooping through his womanâ€™s purse the first thing he must ask himself is, â€œWhat do I hope to find?â€ Anything could be in that purse except the things that probably already drove him to look there in the first place. Things such as self respect, trust and dignity wonâ€™t be found next to spent condom wrappers or Spearmint gum. Maybe heâ€™s looking for something to ease his suspicions that youâ€™ve been seeing your ex again. He could be looking for hotel key cards, two used tickets to the movies or a receipt for a meal with two entrees on it.
It doesnâ€™t really matter what does matter is that heâ€™s showing concern. Sure, itâ€™s a jealous, possessive and intrusive showing of concern that is a sign of things to come but, at least it is concern. Many women will object to such invasions of privacy saying things like:
- If you trust me then why are you snooping through my belongings?
- What does he hope to find?
- Real men are secure enough to just ask if they feel something is wrong.
Iâ€™m reminded of the documentary â€œTakenâ€ about a man whose ex-wife thought he was being overbearing about his daughterâ€™s safety. In this documentary he was accused of being insecure, nosey and possessive. Well, because of his overbearing possessive insecure love and his special set of skills his daughter â€œKimâ€ is still alive today. She even learned enough to be able to assist her father Bryan out of another jam he got into later. (But thatâ€™s another story.) The point is this, a man snooping through your purse might be the thing that saves your life one day.
I say the purse isnâ€™t far ENOUGH! Real love looks through your search history. It checks your passwords on social media so it can look through your private messages. It follows you around town using the GPS settings on your iPhone. Real love browses your search history on Google by just putting in the first letter of the alphabet and letting the auto-fill function do the rest. Ladies, ask yourself â€œWhen is the last time my man accused me of cheating on him because I took the long way home from the grocery store?â€
If you feel like your love life is missing something and you want to see if your man cares then act suspiciously around your purse. Make it seem as if you have something to hide. When sitting on the couch watching a movie take your purse with you to the bathroom. Put a padlock on the zipper of your purse and sit it on top of the fridge. Sure, you canâ€™t padlock a zipper. Thatâ€™s impossible. But the point isnâ€™t to secure the purse. The point is to insecure the man so that heâ€™ll show his love by sneaking into your belongings.
At this point, ladies need to be worried about a man who DOESNâ€™T want to go through a purse. If heâ€™s not bothering to violate your trust then maybe itâ€™s because he doesnâ€™t care about your trust already. After all, you canâ€™t violate what you donâ€™t have.