One of my followers @tellumyumad asked me today in a tweet “@AskRodP what are your thoughts on going through your woman’s purse?” Well, let me set the ladies who follow me on Twitter straight. You can’t spell “pursuer” without “ur purse” can you? So if you want a man to pursue you then you have to realize he’s going to have to go straight into your purse.

When a man is snooping through his woman’s purse the first thing he must ask himself is, “What do I hope to find?” Anything could be in that purse except the things that probably already drove him to look there in the first place. Things such as self respect, trust and dignity won’t be found next to spent condom wrappers or Spearmint gum. Maybe he’s looking for something to ease his suspicions that you’ve been seeing your ex again. He could be looking for hotel key cards, two used tickets to the movies or a receipt for a meal with two entrees on it.

It doesn’t really matter what does matter is that he’s showing concern. Sure, it’s a jealous, possessive and intrusive showing of concern that is a sign of things to come but, at least it is concern. Many women will object to such invasions of privacy saying things like:

• If you trust me then why are you snooping through my belongings?
• What does he hope to find?
• Real men are secure enough to just ask if they feel something is wrong.

I’m reminded of the documentary “Taken” about a man whose ex-wife thought he was being overbearing about his daughter’s safety. In this documentary he was accused of being insecure, nosey and possessive. Well, because of his overbearing possessive insecure love and his special set of skills his daughter “Kim” is still alive today. She even learned enough to be able to assist her father Bryan out of another jam he got into later. (But that’s another story.) The point is this, a man snooping through your purse might be the thing that saves your life one day.

I bet that picture is from her purse.

I say the purse isn’t far ENOUGH! Real love looks through your search history. It checks your passwords on social media so it can look through your private messages. It follows you around town using the GPS settings on your iPhone. Real love browses your search history on Google by just putting in the first letter of the alphabet and letting the auto-fill function do the rest. Ladies, ask yourself “When is the last time my man accused me of cheating on him because I took the long way home from the grocery store?”

If you feel like your love life is missing something and you want to see if your man cares then act suspiciously around your purse. Make it seem as if you have something to hide. When sitting on the couch watching a movie take your purse with you to the bathroom. Put a padlock on the zipper of your purse and sit it on top of the fridge. Sure, you can’t padlock a zipper. That’s impossible. But the point isn’t to secure the purse. The point is to insecure the man so that he’ll show his love by sneaking into your belongings.

At this point, ladies need to be worried about a man who DOESN’T want to go through a purse. If he’s not bothering to violate your trust then maybe it’s because he doesn’t care about your trust already. After all, you can’t violate what you don’t have.

This is a man who cares.